There are 7 rules to dating and life, between men and women/ twelve if you continue that as a relationship between "boys and girls too young to be called adult".

While I despise rules fundamentally speaking, it seems in talking to other people, that complete freedom simply does not exist within their world; as a consequence, they do rely upon rules. Be it known as an alternate consideration, that rules never exist outside the disciplines of love. Power invades that fact, to produce lies. Every rule is a measurement, intended to allow judgment. Every law is a description that exists to create a boundary for the protection of life itself. Love does not judge/ but trust, through the expression and experience of life does.

Nonetheless, within the simple and plain dimensions of a relationship bound to the realities of human existence, the demand to learn how to be disciplined, between male and female does shape our world.
Therefore rule #1 is: truth can never be played with, because trust will fail if it is. Trust alone is the bond between us. Without trust, even if love survives; it is impossible to build a true home.
#2: every discipline is a boundary created to define specific environmental traits, upon which we then trust our experience to be "understood". Or, I can depend upon this, to feel safe and secured against this world because of you.
#3: every relationship is governed entirely by respect. Without true respect, there is no relationship, only the intent to use or abuse exists. Every sexual act or desire beyond lust exists, because "we know"; love rather than life, governs us.
#4: Respect means, I have searched my own heart, and found you acceptable to me/ have found your ways tolerable to my life and experience/ and believe that you will be an HONEST friend, as will I.
#5: The dimensional expression of life is, that we exist as an identity within shared space, because we do care, about each other.
#6: the experience describing sexual expressions is: will you share/ because you care, and consider me an equal in every sense, with you.
#7: the foundation upon which we build a life together is, WILL YOU honor me with the freedom, work, courage, purpose, and desire that gives us a future together/ as I do the same. We are, the definitions we share; therefore time is an absolute, in love.

Between "boys and girls"
rule #8: there is never a moment, when happiness overrules reality; consequences exist, and they must be dealt with.
#9: the elemental decision of sex is, to open the door, for life beyond what is simple and plain to appear. Sometimes, it is overwhelming; because no real answer can be either simple, or plain in the truth that is life.
#10: every female knows, that pregnancy is a tie that binds/ therefore it is an anchor buried into the male heart for the purpose of control. Every man knows the same, and they too attempt to control when their purpose is to own.
#11: every abortion is a failure to understand, LIFE IS beyond our control (it happens)/ but pregnancy is not. Early on, it is a mistake with very serious consequences: therefore if you are NOT absolutely sure, this is in the best interest of all involved. Heartbreaking or not, reality must govern. But past 40 days, it is the life inside that controls, as this then begins a journey that belongs to another.
#12: the critical relationship between male and female exists ONLY when each have decided that they can accept the consequences of being "your companion" for the rest of their lives. That is NOT simple, or plainly given without serious considerations and time spent to understand what is real between you, or not. People need the space to try whatever they believe is important to them/ or they will blame you, even though they chose for themselves. Let a true decision be made, but never underestimate the power of what nature provides us all.
Nature has a plan/ but only you can provide the truth of desire, strength and courage of freedom shared, and a purpose created by love. Nature has chosen what is valuable in the opposite sex, as measured by time and love this is the basic boundary used in protection of the next generation. Nature knows what it is doing/ it is humanity that does not. Consequently, too much fat/ too much aggression/ too much laziness, etc; are all problems that each individual must address for themselves. While none of these realities of life are greater than the primary purpose of human relationships which is to love one another. They are detriments to your future together, just like being too skinny is a sign of not taking care of yourself/ too little interest in competing for an honest living/ a refusal to learn what is important and do it; and so on are merely alternates of the same thing. If you are disciplined within yourself, and marry someone who is not/ there will be "issues, hard to resolve". Because life, is not a marry-go-round/ it is a journey with a dedicated direction and desire; or you fail. That desire NEEDS friendship, the grace of love, the dignity of shared work, the integrity of happiness filled by caring within each other, and a foundation reality of work, that will keep you alive in time. These are NOT "little things".
When people say to you, such things as: "Would you become a healthier, or more athletic, or ____________for me"? They are asking: am I that important to you/ or not? To expect healthy, or athletic in you IS, "nature's plan and demand". It is not too much to ask. YOU ARE, free to ask a similar expectation from them; that is the basis of "fair play". If both then say it is not important; you have made your decision together. If one says: I have every right to be whatever I choose to be, and you have no right to ask such a thing as "be healthy for me". Then they have made their choice, and you are not considered, "more valuable than this". Unless it is a true free will decision, there will be a revolt later on; for either side. It is not a foundation for "a better life", for either person/ but you are free to do as you please. Find someone who understands, and accepts your level of discipline. That too is human freedom.
Money, position in society, possessions, and purposes that make life poor or rich have costs. Nothing is truly free, unless you inherit it; even then MOST have participated directly in the possibilities of inheritance at some level throughout life. If you accept life is a game decided by trophies/ you will lose your life to time. If you accept life is ONLY about love, friendship, romance, and happiness; one day in the future unless you are very lucky, you will arise to find yourself left out of all the things survival requires of you. And be sad. We are all required to find a method to survive, and pay that price as time passes by. But without all that makes life happy, it is a very limited, or lessened life indeed.
Access is nearly everything in dating. If you cannot spend time together/ then you cannot find a relationship to share. Time shared, is the reality of getting to know what each other expects or desires from their lives. If you learn, if you care; that is a very powerful understanding. If you respect, you will not use what you know, but share what you accept as the portion we can or will travel together is a decision we both make. Not my decision or manipulation/ not yours: our decision together as one. Time gives you that opportunity to learn/ that access to understand, and share life. Truth makes it fair. Love builds trust. Respect keeps you together as one or as friends for life.