When it is important, NOT “to be nice”/ it is then functionally helpful, to be nice in alternate ways.
There are foundations in human behavior, that are not helpful to a happy or successful life. Happy being, I respect and love the honesty of who I am. Successful being, I have come to recognize life is a journey, and every moment leads unto another/ until the day I no longer exist in time. Successful means; as I live and breathe today, so does the reality of my own tomorrow change.
The elemental challenge of wisdom, is to establish the necessary thought patterns to evaluate and decide what the future shall bring/ at a time when it is still possible to change, prepare, or rearrange reality so that life itself will be served. Therefore who we are, what we do, and the direction of our own descriptions in passion and intensity are relationships both to future and past/ as we decide the level of what truth in us is allowed to be. Truth is truth, but our acceptance of thought is a dimension conceived by the determination of what balances our own perceptions of a world, into the concentrate of where we belong in that world, by the order and disciplines of a life that has chosen our respective destiny. The elemental definition of life is: we are, the truth that we live! The elemental search for that truth, is a journey into the abyss of selfishness/ or the expressions beyond ourselves, that become “one with the universe”. What is experience tells us plainly, that every decision does matter to each one. Because we endure our experience, or we rejoice in it as best we can/ and if you are “lucky”{life becomes alive in you, and joy is conceived by your own heart}. Miracles are everywhere! It is that simple. But it is not so simple as humanity, and the constant disgrace of intentional stupidity that demands “I/ we can and will play god”. How can you be so blind as this/ it is completely beyond all sense of thought or wisdom; it is beyond all logic or assumption of intellect: without a shred of real evidence, or functional thought, so are the “intellectuals or religious” that will believe in absolutely anything. So long as they don’t give credit to GOD. Or rebuild OUR CREATOR, “In their own image”.
Even so, being nice demands an opportunity to understand the basis and purpose of “my decision” to interfere or help you in your own life/ is accepted, because I do have something to offer you, or assist you with, or teach that I believe will make your own life better. Love always hopes, this will become a path between lives shared/ but love understands each and every such decision is a personal, or individual choice, that only you can make. Love is a description that begins its journey one step at a time/ therefore the sooner you begin, the farther into love you are allowed to journey. If you do not turn back, then family, home, happiness, and trust will be found along the way.
One of the tragedies of human experience is that physical appearances make a difference to so many people/ that love and life can be lost. Rejection and ridicule eat inside, wherever it is allowed/ and tragedy follows in many forms. One such form is overeating to the point of life and health consequences/ another such form that is simply a mirror image of obesity, is the decision to starve until life and health consequences occur. There are many forms of the same, only as an alternate experience such as: when trophies are assembled, and people become immersed in pride as an assumption this “will make my life better”. Like too much food, it is momentary. Like being dependent upon what other people think, as in intentional starvation: it is what you believe is true in your own heart, that matters most of all. Of the many maladies in human life, all are compromises of a singular issue: that somehow, in some way, my life is not equal to the rest. Obviously that is not true, because life is not an image/ or even physical or mental form. Rather life, is the basis of expression and experience that becomes translated by the effects and intensity of thought. Thought is not a {“physical or mental form”}/ not a bandage called mental intellect/ nor a relationship of body. Thought is the relationship we grant within ourselves, to be respected by the freedom to choose who we are going to be. The body needs discipline and balance to give us time, as reality was designed to be. The mind needs measurements to assign reality its designation of good or bad. But thought is the essence of our “world of life”/ while time is the essence of what we build or destroy as our body in identifiable existence. Thought needs not an outline to function/ but identity needs a boundary to become the individual of who I chose to be, my truth, as I live to be the element of life and living “called me”. It is not the same as you/ nor can you be the same as I; because freedom and thought call each one to be themselves. The reality of “I am”.
The consequence of individuality, is that we must be seen as physically and mentally different/ or the mind will call each “the same”. And that fundamentally alters the ability of freedom to establish an identity that is personally and descriptively yours. Therefore we are different in shape and size and many ways to encourage and demand: what freedom asserts we must learn. That is, to compose in time a relationship with life that can survive. That brings us, to the question assigned by heart: who do you desire to be? The question of soul is a direction established by the purpose of your hope, the relationship you are willing to share, and care for with respect and discipline as truth through trust. The question of time is simply: what is the price you are willing to pay, for a world created by the freedom of your own individuality; regardless of the obstacles, either good or bad.
Humanity measures the others, and commonly lies to self. Every lie destroys something/ therefore it is akin to “killing yourself”. Only the foolish need apply.
Love and life measure no one/ rather they both live by truth, learning to respect carefully. Love lifts the heart to desire “more than I can be, alone” / and life grants the purpose of my soul is to share as if a home is built in me; for you. The treasury of happiness is formed, by the value we give to each other, the relationship we share without competition, or the meaning of pride; which is to demand “I am more”. Rather happiness knows, “we are alive”. And family understands, we can share this blessing if only you try.
Good prayers always
James Frank Osterbur