| The essence of every male and female relationship of truth & value; is the basis of what has balance, therefrom discipline and order in the lives of humanity on earth. That means: every male and female relationship is of extreme value, and must be nurtured to achieve its true potential. Every bond is built upon trust. Every trust is built upon truth, as does assemble over time. Every relationship forms or is lost because of respect. Every love is the result of acceptance, a reality of who you are, or are determined to be: that has value to me. Passions lift us to romance. Romance transforms our world, to a place “without time”/ as you have now replaced that element with your own presence in my life. Until reality brings us back. |
Passions, purpose, desire, and loneliness; are all elements of the behaviors exhibited between male and female adults.
Examination of these details, presents us with an explosive mix/ that either ascends from personal selfishness into the expressions of value and love for other people. Or descends from participation established within respect/ to the places where hate, revenge, violence, sadness, suicide, and insanities occur.
Passion is the exhibition of an inner expression, that is experienced when the foundations which control the fabric of our decisions, is allowed to be freed. A passion is: the critical step between living a life “about just me”/ and accepting the duties which align within us, this is important to us all, or at least more than just me. Passion verifies “more than one life, exists” for me. Passion is a necessity, in romance, love, and family. It comes without a price, to any other but me. It is the evidence of: duty will be achieved. It is the foundation of beauty, because at its core: beauty is the realization of freedom, and the acceptance that I have a choice/ that is not bartered or broken, by the others.
Purpose is the demand, that I must achieve my goal/ regardless of the price I cause myself or to another. It is assigned by the distance, & the way in which I travel toward my fate; or destiny. Therefore purpose is either “alive or dead” at its essence: because it drives those who accept it as “I must”, into their destiny or fate. A purpose is a critical decision, it is a demand, my life MUST succeed at this one thing: or there will be consequences such as “being lost/ jealousy/ failure/ death/ potential insanity, as is addiction; and a wide range of similar realities”. Unless “their purpose” fits your life; those who are truly defined by this decision/ cannot surrender it, until it meets its conclusion. Consequently, although like me, “many who choose purpose, are worthy human beings fighting for life”/ some will go the other way. There is no real room in true purpose, for anyone who does not accept the price of this life, for me/ therefore “for us”. It is literally this goal, that drives life in me: for love. OR, There are also many more whose goal is greed, power, lust, etc; and they are not worthy of your time, unless that is what you wish for your future as well. The price is high, either direction.
Desire represents, “the questions within your heart”! The reality of value in love or hate, which constructs the future by your own design. Desire establishes the crossroads of your life: by confronting you again and again, until your decision is clear. Either you do choose and accept, the foundations which present us with love/ OR you do choose and accept the realities of behavior, the consequences and fate, that hate will bring; even though these are wrapped in lies. Your choice is not easy for many/ as they desire both love and hate: even though these are opposites. Desire decides the direction of your soul/ which does mean, “toward all that is good and life affirming”/ OR, all that is not, relying on selfishness to be your god. Those in the middle, have no true desire: they simply “want”. Thereby hiding from the decision, and running away from the responsibilities that are life affirming.
Loneliness opens the door: “I am NOT enough for me/ I must have MORE”! Therefrom, the elemental rise from existence: the recognition that I am alive, which is enough. Into the critical passage beyond myself, as is the existence and intention called love. Is failing. Reality, Describes the values we expand from simply being alive, by opening the doors which elevate our experience with time. Every door is a decision, with consequences/ but every door is not a truth. The difference is, life in time can hold many realities/ but life itself, as the existence of miracles defining “creation itself”; can only survive truth. Therein thought elevates loneliness: into the creation of values as is being alive. These values, are searched to become the essence of self/ instead of time. In contrast to that ascension; are the many realities governing time itself/ as that is our situation on this earth, and we must not entirely avoid it. Loneliness fails the test: “is the miracle of your life/ not enough”? Life separated from the rest of life, as if it were not worthy or respected by the others: limits and denies the opportunities of love. Thereby loneliness arises, not from the inside/ but from the outside, in these matters of the heart. Every heart needs a friend/ heart exists to invite friendship: therefore it becomes lonely, if none accept. Therefore the passage of time becomes haunted with all that is not living “with me”. Or more simply: loneliness appears, because only the image of love is available, “a ghosting” of what is real/ rather than life itself. People cause that, with judgment/ disrespect/ the failure of many things; these are necessary to avoid within yourself, and to remove hate from your own life, is your decision/ or not. Hate acts upon loneliness, “like a parasite”/ moving just under the skin: until you recognize the garbage (acceptance of pride/ want/ selfishness/ greed/ lust/ human decisions, etc) which let it in. Or more simply: when hate is removed, peace will enter/ but only if you remove the things which are not love. Life is a choice, about three distinct things in time: either you choose love, and that becomes visible in your life. Or you choose hate, and that becomes an attempt to hide, so you are not found out/ or a desire to create fear. What you are required to do, that is neither love or hate; is about survival. Everything else, is merely “passing through time, without a decision”. One of these three things decides every change, or step, in the direction of your life: how you treat people, and why you choose the life you live “as best you can”. Those who disagree, and describe themselves with want: are forming their decision with lies and images of what they expect their journey to become. Rather than what it is: a life in time, like all others/ dependent upon what you do in fact, choose; or others choose for you. Lies only complicate and remove respect. Without respect, there is NO true relationship with another life. Without friendship that is honest and true, there is no real love! Do remember that! It is true of the spiritual world as well.
Dating is governed by little things, believe it or not. Primary motivation is the difference between male and female/ or “I find you sexy”: because you are not physically, like me. The more that difference is visible (clearly NOT like me), the more sexy you become. Therefore it is the differences between male and female, that arise as the key to making someone notice me. Second on the list of mandatory elements that must be achieved is: contrary to being a child, “pretending to be like me” is not enough. To be within my development of adult friendship, increasing the possibility of my critical decision to invest in you both “time and effort”. You must actually be like me, or honestly willing to accept the life I do live. Changing yours, or I changing mine to become a journey we can create together as one. Liars are NOT welcome, because nothing is fair in war/ and only the things, words, and realities which are true; are fair in love. None can build trust, without truth. Every lie destroys the bond which is trust, between you and me. Therefore choose carefully: either to build a life together/ or you will destroy that bond, which made you friends, with lies. You cannot have both: truth or lie/ they are opposites, and do not walk together.
The third reality of life that intervenes and determines the future of any relationship/ of every romantic gesture: “is can I afford your happiness”? Or more simply: is the summation of your life, coupled to mine: going to cost me all or most of my life? When it is easy to believe, that I can make you happy: then it is also easy to get to know you, which is the beginning of every long term relationship. Within that price of a relationship is the reality of “ARE you happy”/ or can I fix, am I willing to pay; for this problems you have? The less you cost me, the more likely it is, I will find you desirable and spend my time, life, and money with you. Everything you need/ everything I need: is a cost which we bring to each other. It is also true, that if “eating too much” is more important than I am/ then “You” don’t love me enough. Too skinny is bad/ healthy is important. YOU are free to believe anything you want, including eating more than is good for you/ but so am I. Disciplines do matter/ they determine what the future will be. Therefore it is substantively true, that everybody searches “for the best deal”: how much will you cost me. That “shopping/ as opposed to the reality, can we be friends”, is functionally conceived by: these three fundamentals.
1. What will you do for me/ what must I do for you: will we choose together? Which does mean, will you share and care, about me enough?
2. What is the life that you lead in real physical “this is how it is” living? Does discipline mean anything to you: can you accept the order required for us, or will you let me balance and choose a life, for myself? Because honest freedom is equal with happiness: they do walk together.
3. What are the disciplines of your heart: will I be respected, even if wrong? Can you control yourself, for the greater good: as is the duty between you & me or us/ to help me understand, “what I do need to know: for us” & I for you? Because if “something matters to me”/ the day will come, when it is an issue between our lives: if you don’t care. Those who are very active/ will find an error in those who become truly complacent. Everyone has a right to live as they please, so long as they don’t hurt someone else intentionally. But that does not mean, I wish to participate in a life, that I do not wish to live for myself. I have rights too! People change: friendship, forgiveness, and respect decide how long can we journey together.
The critical issue of love is: what do I have to share/ what am I willing to receive! That reality translates into, “what are the blessings I have achieved within me”; and where is my own heart, when I know that the value of your life has an equal meaning with mine? Or more simply: you cannot share, what you have not gathered within yourself as a value worth existence. These are simple realities, that begin with every single life on this planet is a miracle: beyond all description of money, or the alternate values of men/ WE ARE ALIVE, and nothing has more value than that. Therefore the question of sharing and caring is: DO YOU understand these words: “heart, respect, truth, forgiveness, and love? If you do/ then the best blessing of your life is an appreciation conceived by respect, for all life itself. Demonstrated by your own actions/ held with honor, by your own love; thereby established in caring, sharing, and the freedoms which become our shared expression of time. It is within these moments, that people choose a mate; “for love and life”/ because they care. Caring represents the decision: “you have value to me”. Or more simply, in contrast: many wait for proof of reality, before they commit. Which does mean, “that YOU” are not participating in that care”/ consequently, why should another care for you? Responsibility sometimes requires, “a time apart, for becoming critically aware”/ of the life you truly desire, accept, and define by the price you ARE willing to pay. Love is not a price, and never will be. However time and living require a payment, and it is not free. You marry these too, along with families, and the relationship you have, or will have, with reality itself. Sometimes love is not enough/ unless it is true. Love is NOT the same as want. Want is the foundation of every lie; because if you don’t want this/ then you don’t lie, to get it, or keep it away.
The critical issue of time is: “NO moment, justifies a decision that establishes a lifetime”. Or more simply, people cannot be judged on tiny snippets of behavior/ dress/ or other: it is you that have failed in doing so. Judgment is not valid, unless violence or hate, is truly in evidence: as hate identified. Hate can be judged. Love cannot. Rather love is an evidence of discipline, that allows order to conceive of a balanced acceptance, with all purposes guiding both, toward a respect that elevates everyone; “as best we can”. There are no non-violent behaviors that do not include someone else, which are to be judged. Every life requires a search! Life itself, is separated by a barrier called time, created to illuminate: what is, or is not to be valued, in YOU! Therefore every action or reaction is a decision to consider the consequences and learn from the mistakes/ BY YOU. Even if actions or reactions, are somewhat absurd: freedom allows it, to learn. The element called WHY, subjugates us all to an investigation of reality itself: that is a fundamental part of learning. Without it, there can be insanity, instead of freedom. For myself; I have walked at “the extreme edge” of many things/ many times. Preparations for this are necessary/ if not, insanity or death may come. Realities of existence, “ rise or fall”; based upon the creation of knowledge. In contrast to knowledge: Returning “to your human expectations”, is slightly complicated because of judgment; than is understanding or knowledge. Or more correctly, life with humanity, “requires a price”. Many search for life itself/ many fall; not all will rise again. That fact means: it is not for you to judge them or anyone else: it takes courage to try, and commitment even if you’re wrong! Only hate can be judged, by law. Everything else in humanity, does become a functional freedom; some of which can and must be restricted to “somewhere else”. I have rights too.
The distance between dating and love, is as simple as WHY? You must answer that question for yourself; because it is a valid description of what “this future” is going to be. WHAT do you want, IS: “the foundation of every lie”. Therefore you have expectations that must be met, or you won’t be happy. Even so, want is an abyss: it never ends, unless you yourself end it; inside of you. So the question of your future is dependent upon what you both WANT. The decision of pride requires: somebody has to lose/ before someone else can win! Be careful who you choose, pride is an enemy/ when excessive. Because time goes on: whenever or wherever want controls, life will become a game. Pride will make you the loser/ or the winner: which does mean use/ abuse/ jealousy/ addictions/ and more arises from here.
Many who get married want a child: period/ make this happen, and for some, then its go away. Because now I got what I wanted. That is functionally unfair, and deprives each other of the opportunities to share the experience of a relationship: causing trouble, when it happens to early. The same is true of refusing each other a child: if you wait too long, or refuse the open wound of a person who deeply wants a child. They won’t forgive you. The only question is, will they remain in love with you? One child is enough/ unless they die. Because this world is full! This is a critical question for every relationship, and it must be dealt with honestly. Or more simply: do NOT lie/ cheat/ steal/ or entrap. If you do not desire a child, refusing at every opportunity/ and your lover does: then find someone else, who will accept your need, as their own decision. Life with the other, who refuses you (I have needs/ rights, too): will become a constant sore, if you don’t. People do change their mind/ but that is not for you to say: every decision is personal, “it is mine”/ not yours. People do, “and in particular men”: who want a woman! Will sometimes take a woman with child: BUT if they do not accept the child as their own. MANY WILL try to make that child “worth something to me”: by trying to get “something more”. In other words, even if you’re married/ even if its their child too: some men, and even women, will want some kind of payment from “your child”/ for their tolerance. That decision can become a failure, such as using the child for sex.
The foundations of marriage are simple ones: we agree there will be a financial cost/ for any reality of separation. It is a legal decision/ not a religious one.
The critical reality of understanding marriage between man and woman is: “you are both making an oath to accept each other, to respect each other, and to love each other as best you can” before GOD. That Is a decision that cannot be undone/ even if you separate. Rather if separation is required, then both bear an equal responsibility for the damage done: each chose. This is “our act”/ not “GOD’S decision: it is your decision, asking for a lifetime: even if you don’t understand the weight of that decision. That relationship cannot be created unless both are true to their words/ lies kill trust, ending relationships. Only truth survives.
Think before you act. Be honest with yourself, and everyone else: this has benefits, as time goes by. Even if the others, refuse to accept: “I am true”.
