Being free of duty: knowledge is the essential of change/ understanding the relationship born to share/ while wisdom itself stands as guard over our own future; even now, this world.
IF, I were a mother; I would teach you, of the passages, between man and woman. But before we begin, it is necessary to dispense with “boy and girl”. The difference is: until a boy learns his penis is not a toy/ but a reality that can bring grief as well as joy; and realizes a duty therefrom; he is not a man. The same is true of girl, and the toys they too are given. Toys will be surrendered, before the life of an adult can begin.
A passage means: between the boundary walls (I protect myself) that separate us from each other, there is a pathway that leads to heart (I care). To share this understanding between each other, “that together we are now vulnerable” is a romance.
So lets begin with what does it mean to share? The answer is, “I have more inside of me, than I need/ therefrom I give to you, that you may be more, and I too, may find you sharing as well”. The treasury of life is love; but do remember a gift of love means, “you have surrendered a part of your love/ and it will bring heartache, if not returned to you”. It is not a gift/ it is not true, if there is no price to be paid. Sharing is then recognizing, “I desire our existence, or your existence; to be more”. The question is why? The answer is: because love will always care, even if it cannot share/ “too much, has been lost”.
Respect then, those who share with you honestly, and without a price to you: because love is not free, someone must pay.
We then ask: why must someone pay, is not love the very essence of freedom itself? The answer is no, freedom is a right of life; but it requires a choice, and choices are never free. They each carry a consequence, that will not leave you, even if you die. Consequently, every choice is a discipline in love; so that the reality of our time may not know its cost. We are “the blessing of each other”; as love ignited in joy. Thereby the cost of finding someone who not only shares a little, but can share their soul; is worth the price. When that soul, becomes true in you.
Between male and female there are “opposite worlds”/ that do not even resemble each other at all. Even though we share and experience and even express remarkable similarities in time. It is still not the same, by any means of measure! The realities of woman, are very different than the consequences of man. The consequences of woman, are very different than the realities of man. We are NOT “the same”. We simply share time. But that fact gives humanity balance; when the lives we share are equal in respect. A fact that has been historically lost, due entirely to the failures of men.
If we removed the cost and consequences of failure; and returned to the values of truth and life. The realities of man and woman would drastically change. We see in happiness, the joy of who we can be. We see in true love, the expressions and experience that lifts each one beyond themselves as “life coming ALIVE”. That is vastly different, than the majority will ever know today: because fantasies and failure rule this time.
You can buy time with sex/ but rarely will it do you any good; in terms of a solid relationship that can survive its truth. Sex does not bind you to each other/ it merely opens the door, to whatever is inside: which must then be dealt with, to proceed. If you find a child inside: you must “grow them up”/ or fail. For some, that is as close to love, as they will get. But if you find a “monster inside”: time will be required, to heal. Monster means: from its least form which is liar, “without a cause”/ to tyrant, the intent to rule. People lie, without being a monster: because they want, or honestly desire: what they feel “is being lost”. There is a difference.
When you find romance, you find your soul: a relationship with Creation itself. Because this gift is highly valued, and it is a treasure to be kept inside. Unfortunately, the vast majority worship trophies, more than love. As a consequence, romance often dies. Romance is also torn, by the realities of this world and what can or cannot be done for life itself. As an example: I ended dating, because too many hearts were broken/ I simply could not stay. Few, would have survived this journey; had I asked them to come along; “outside the world they know”. It is then unfair. Life or death for our world is not a game, and it does take precedence. “Sometimes, love just isn’t enough”/ reality bites.
Of sexual relationships, there are again 4 main types: simple sex (just for chemicals)/ lust (just to use your body as my toy)/ honesty (we can share time, to express or experience our need, not to be alone)/ or as love beyond the physical reality, which changes everything between us. Men, who failed to grow up entirely: commonly fail to recognize women are not their “rubbing post”. Leaving women outside the experience (THIS IS NOT, just about you) and wanting less and less (I DON’T, need to be used or abused or a toy) after marriage (I need someone to help me); distance grows. This is the result of men (boys), loving their penis; instead of the woman! MEN who survive themselves, and learn to participate equally with women, sharing the experience by expressing the foundations of caring, respect, and I value you: DO, find themselves “trapped in the bedroom”. Because women are sexual beings, in more ways than one. The difference is: whatever you provide, accept, or learn.
One of the most troubling consequences of dating at an early age is: girls and women want control, if they want, or desire you. Boys and young men, want or desire females to participate with them/ when sex enters in, it is very hard to becomes friends with another: someone is going to get hurt. Which is why sex enters in, to control, and establish boundaries “not beyond me”. While boys try hard, searching for freedom; to prepare for life ahead/ girls try hard to protect their future, with someone who secures them, to time and place. That can easily lead to pregnancy, which all women understand as a lever/ if they want or desire you. Which leads to lies, which leads to heartbreak, which leads to lifetime changes, in both male and female. If you are not truly ready!
One of the most common maladies between male and female is: “I wasn’t ready/ you made me choose”. Or its opposite, “I was ready/ but you would not choose me”! Both are fraught with peril, because timing is an elemental truth. Where timing for love exists; there will be happiness! When it does not, there will be tears, and more. So the true question is: HOW, do we enable our lives to feel the same, at exactly the same time, and for the same cause or purpose?
This begins with recognizing: everyone desires the time to experience or express what freedom gives to them. If you restrain that, there will be a potential lifetime cost. If you make decisions, and force them to accept the consequences: there will be rejection, on a scale they choose. So then timing begins with freedom, and the right “to choose you, IF you will have me”. That requires time, and a distinct decision which won’t honestly be rushed. Thereby know, love is a medium through which we enter into the values of “ourselves first”/ before we can commit, to the values of someone else.
Timing is the commitment, to belong where you are, in this relationship. That commitment is not freedom; it is acceptance of a responsibility to share and care for each other first. Which requires honestly, “to be what the other needs”. When those needs are small, “you get freedom and its rewards”. When those needs are huge, it is a lifetime of work/ but with rewards. The treasury of love will grow, if you both earn it to be so.
Love is not a game.
